I think why you are frustrated and perceive people as being judgemental is because they are frustrated that you have been given the information as to how you need to proceed to get the card considered for listing but you are ignoring/not following it.
As has been pointed out you need to contact Admin via the "Contact Us" link. Admin is a singular person not a group of administrators. It is Admin's site and they are the person, the only person that makes.the decisions/rules.
You have to also remember long time members have seen this exact discussion many times so they do get frustrated when their advice, on a situation that is completely outside their control, is ignored/argued with. They are not making the rules.
I do agree with you that many people here can be overly harsh when it comes to some aspects of the hobby, especially what they see as "investing". I do find that somewhat perplexing as, while I definitely have my own opinions, I am more of an each-to-their-own type of guy.
So, in short; stop beating a dead horse in this thread, both yourself and others will just get riled up. If you have not done so already contact Admin for the definitive answer on your card. However, whether it is listed or not, if your end goal is to make it "worth more" then I have jo idea how getting it a variation listing here will achieve that.